Words…friend or foe?

Why is it that words can have such an affect on people? Words can have so many feelings associated with them. God, for some reason, made us able to remember them all…good or bad. 

Words evoke Joy. I remember the first time Jon asked me to date him. I remember exactly what he said, how he said, where we were at, etc. (same for my amazingly planned proposal…great job Jon). I even remember the first time I thought he had even the slightest bit of interest in me (We were preparing to leave for a mock trial trip, and a group of us were talking about the artist series program our team had attended the night before. Jon told me that I looked nice…which was confusing because I didn’t see him that night. I had gone with another friend of mine. He told me what color my dress was, what color my flowers were, and that my hair was down). As a college girl only wishing at this point that Jon liked me, you can imagine the feelings and emotions of possibility and excitement.

Words evoke thankfulness. Like when Jon and I both got calls about our current places of employment. We were so grateful to God for answering our prayers. You feel excited and nervous at the prospect that someone values you and your knowledge enough to let you work for them and represent their company. Thankfulness is often felt when people compliment you for your hard work, your graciousness, your willingness to put yourself last, or many other reasons.

While words evoke wonderful feelings and emotions, they also evoke pain. People sometimes say things without thinking that can be hurtful, but then there are some people in life who say things to intentionally inflict pain. It’s frustrating that someone can say something to you that you know is absolutely FALSE, but it still hurts. The words so deeply cut you that you wonder how you will ever “forgive and forget.” People mock your faith, use the Bible against you rather than to encourage you or help you learn something, and assume that you aren’t giving grace when dealing with them when in fact you have given and continue to give more grace than one person gives in an entire lifetime. They assume that their words will override their actions.

I asked myself this weekend, “why did God make me so I can remember such painful experiences?” The only answer I can figure is to learn from them. So easy to say…… I will take everyone’s words and learn to be a better wife, a godly parent (when the time comes, not now Emily 😉 ), and a better participant in society in general.

While I have many friends who love me, believe in me, trust me, and care for me, the thoughts and words of one can affect my life so greatly. It’s attributed to a wrong focus. I need to adjust my focus. I can’t fix the problems of those around me, and contrary to the very minority belief, I am not the source of everyone’s problems. God loves me. He knows my heart, He knows my thoughts, and He knows that I try my best to make my words and actions match. That’s what matters in life. As exciting as the joyous moments are when you get great news or the sucker punch blows to the gut you get from horrible words, the response should be (again easy to say) the same response, “Praise God.”


2 thoughts on “Words…friend or foe?

  1. Hey Ash,

    I really like your words in your blog. you are so right about what people say, but Thank God, that He is on our side and rules the Universe!! Sometimes we just have to laugh in the face of satan and remember that God more powerful than evil/false words said about people.

    love you girl,

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